I keep having this recurring dream that I’m back in my hometown of Ferndale, California, and wanting to move back into my old house. I think this was partially triggered by hearing that it was up for sale several months back. I’m always at my current age and actually there at the house looking in. In some dreams I actually get to move in. In others I don’t because I can’t afford it or someone else is moving in.
Another recurring dream I have is that I’m back in the Navy and back on my old ship, a huge aircraft carrier, and am getting ready to go out to sea for a long cruise. Most of the guys I was in with are there again and I’m terribly excited.
Both of these dreams feel happy. I often wake up feeling stressed out that I’m back here in the present day, with all of my present day worries. In those days my wonderful Ferndale Grandma was still alive and vital. My dad was young and his battle with cancer was still years and years away. I had no debt. In the Navy I had free meals, health care, and plenty of spending money. In both cases I was young and had everything ahead of me.
But here’s something interesting about those dreams. They both take place in the present day, when I’m at my present age, and I have my present possessions and accomplishments. I hadn’t really thought about the significance of this when I started writing four paragraphs ago, but I do think it’s significant.
Ferndale is a beautiful place and I have many fond memories of living there, but I also have to remember that when I was growing up and living with my father I felt terribly isolated, insecure, out of place, and out of touch. My dad could be terribly overbearing. I didn’t have a car, which is a must in all but the biggest cities of America. In retrospect, I see I didn’t know much about the world out there. I didn’t know about art. I didn’t know I wanted to play music; I feel if I had those years would have been much easier and more fun.
The closest major city to Ferndale is San Francisco, 300 miles away, which now is a fairly easy trip (especially with friends in the Bay Area to crash with – thanks Brian & Erica!). Hell, it’s a fairly easy trip for me from Harrisonburg, VA – drive to DC, hop a plane, and you’re there – compared to my teenage days when it might as well have been across the ocean.
And the Navy… I hated the Navy when I was in. When we went out to sea we slept in cramped quarters. We worked from 7 am until 8 pm (though I have to acknowledge that I was very lucky to land in a division that didn’t have to work nearly as hard as most). There were no women on board. Sometimes we didn’t get mail, our only form of contact with people in the outside world, for days. Finally, I didn’t have much use or appreciation for military structure and discipline.
So I dream of going back to a Ferndale where I have my car, my instruments, my music collection, my books, my internet. I’m friends with my father. He’s not someone who restricts me in any way. I dream of a Navy cruise with women on board, my MacBook, my iPod, email, and internet. In both dreams, the Navy and Ferndale, the people who were there at the time are still there. I’ve grown, they’re pretty much as they are in my memory.
In doing this bit of self-analysis, I think what I’m dreaming of is to have the best of both worlds. Then I had no debt and did have health insurance, friends, evenings and weekends off, and security. Now I have a car, different friends, a fabulous music & book collection, all of the musical gear I need, and the freedom of being an adult. I’m in an area of the country where I want to be, I’ve got my degree, my debt’s coming down, and, WITH WORK, a good job will come. I guess that’s what I want… a good job. After all, that’s why I went back to school in 2003 and got my degree. That “good job” will over time take care of the debt, let me have insurance, and will give me security.
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Ah… “with work”. With work I’ll get and keep a good job. With work I’ll be playing shows again. With work I’ll finally record another album. With work I’ll get myself into good shape again. Work doesn’t have to be grueling or exhausting. In fact, if you want to get anything done over a long haul, it’s better if it’s not exhausting. You need to pace yourself. Haruki Murakami, the writer, says you need to work to the point of feeling like you can do just a little more, but stop there, so you have energy to go on tomorrow. Woody Allen says 90% of success is just showing up. Writer and Podcaster Mur Lafferty calls it “butt in the chair time.”
Time to go to work.
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